The kitchen is finally back in working order. Now it's just cleaning out the junk that was stashed in them and what to do with it. I've seriously got bags and bags of junk. Junk mail, gifts, things I bought and never needed/used. It's a crying shame.
Second, I'm overwhelmed. The endless chores, being tired, dealing with James and his temper tantrums. I'm done. Too bad we can't shove them back in the womb huh? *Erase the graphics from your minds, please*
Third, I am trying to get back in the swing of nursing covers. I've committed to selling three of them. Can you believe that? Yay. I went fabric shopping this weekend and got some awesome ideas and some cuuuuuute fabrics. So next weekend I hope to post some pix. No promises though, I'm a very busy person.
Fourth, my ankles are killing me. Then someone mentioned that it could be my running shoes. DUH. Why didn't I even think of that before???? So hopefully this ankle problem will dissapear when I get new shoes.
Fifth, how does your life change from one kid to two? As a full time mom, the task is daunting. Yes, task. I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket with James. So another one is inevitable. Just when? And just how? How am I going to do it???? HOW?
Any advise/reassurance would be nice. Comment away for my sanity's sake!
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Aubrey's three months now, and I just feel like I'm hitting my stride. The most notable change is that I feel like I need people more. Maybe that's so there's witnesses, so I don't strangle either of them. Really though, play groups for Ben and educational things for me (like a friend willing to teach canning or sewing during the day while our kids play) have really helped.
I guess the whole point is to eventually get some sort of a child-eco-system going, where they help take care of eachother. I mean, eventually your kids will be old enough to play with eachother, right? Sure, it means some fighting, but it also means time that you don't have to entertain them. Then, if you have enough kids, they really do take care of eachother. I was the oldest of ten and I maintain that my quota for children is much less since I helped raise my siblings.
After having Sarah, I felt like I needed to find myself again. I've learned now, after four kids, that I need a day off once a week. Tuesdays are my nights off. I go to book club (1st Tues.), card group (3rd Tues.), out with my mom (4th Tues.), and I'm working on what to do the 2nd Tues. of the month. It's my time out. It's working out nicely because it gives me a break from the kids, the house, and the other things that come with motherhood/being a wife. Maybe the 2nd Tues. could become pedicure night! :)
I feel like the home improvement projects that I have planned are never ending, plus we still need to unpack the garage. It's extremely overwhelming. Some days I feel like if I ignore it long enough, it will go away. But, no! So, I take a little bit at a time. I did a major painting weekend, but I haven't done anything since. I'm sure I'll go on a binge again, then take a break.
As far as the temper tantrums go -- I just walked away. I guess it really depends on the situation. But, when my kids threw temper tantrums I just went into another room. They still let their frustrations out and sometimes went to find me. I simply told them that I didn't want to listen to it (they were a little older than James is now though). They usually stopped because they weren't getting attention from it.
I don't have all the answers. I continue to learn each day. It's really hard to be a mom. Sometimes I've felt -- "This is what I was longing to have for so long!" But, then they come up and hug you and tell you how much they love you. All the frustration melts away and it all seems worth it.
oh, man! If only there was an instruction book, right?
from my studies, I know that three years between children is the ideal... but I did not follow that. Two years will be really fun for them, but right now it's really hard for me! so I am definitely thinking three (though I want one right now!) :)
I feel like I still haven't recovered from having #2 and he's 18 mo!
But I like your friend Erin's plan, I have been trying to do that... I just finished a parenting class and that has helped.. I can give you some books to read?
Good luck! enjoy it, soon enough they won't want to even talk to us :)
Thanks. You guys are awesome. Being a mom really is HARD work. Especially being home with them all the time. I do a lot of things I like to do (like running and hiking) but I take James with me. So Erin, your idea of a night just to myself sounds like a great idea. Why haven't I thought of that before?
Once again, I can count on you guys for insight, motivation, encouragement, and reassurance.
(if you only knew how calming your comments are!)
Bianca, I got new shoes for my birthday. Do it. It makes your realize you were running on rocks. (And hopefully it will help your ankles:)
The biggest change for me was not being as mobile. Grace was a very mobile baby, and I could go almost anywhere with her. Julie is a super baby, but taking 2 kids is a lot harder than one.
It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one who has moments when I'm like, "Kids? Why did I want kids?" But like Erin said, there are good times, too.
First off I don't think little James will ever forgive for posting his hair like that. Kidding.
The picture reminds me of a story my sister tells me, she is five years older than me. Like a typical girl she liked doing hair. She begged to let her put my hair in pin curls. Finally I must have agreed – Oh, btw I have no memory of this. It is either a repressed memory or it never really happened. Come to think of it I have a lot of stories swirling around in my head put there by sister. Hmmm. Sorry of the tangent. As the story goes, she was just about finished and my cousins came over and it was a mad scramble to get my locks back over to the masculine side.
To your question: Me and my wife had three. The first two were a slam dunk. When the third one came, then we were out numbered. How did my grandma do it with 11?
You will make it. Each day will take care of its self – make each one count they go fast.
Grayquill
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